I Swear I Have a Life

This has been quite the week.  Lots of work.  Some actual socialization happened on Wednesday, and I recently spoke to my parents for the first time in quite a while.  I'm hoping that I'll be able to go to a museum with some friends this weekend, as well as (hopefully) play more ridiculous board/card games with people, and maybe get some sort of DIY thing I've been procrastinating for months out of the way...maybe.  Oh, and I've finally listened to Gangam Style enough that I can properly pronounce a little over half of the words.  Be proud of me.  Anyways, some of the things I've loved this week...

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This article really interested me, because it's something I've tried to do in my life, and something that I've seen a lot of people, well, avoid doing, which puzzled me when I was younger (and admittedly still puzzles me now, even though I'm much more shy than I was as a small child (yay for becoming more awkward?)).  I've never enjoyed the way our culture seems to think that one person's happiness somehow damages another person's happiness.  It doesn't seem remotely logical to me, yet it traps us in these loops where we never feel good enough because "so-and-so's doing better than me".  What does 'better' even mean!?!? Bigger house, more organized place, bigger boobs, kids doing better in school, not divorced, making more money or just WHAT?  Are you sure that whatever they're doing "better" than you is actually any better in any way, shape, or form?  We can never really live another person's life and understand them, because we're equipped with only our own life experiences and the way that shapes our understanding of everything we will ever learn.  As far as I understand it, there is no magical "better", because if we can't care about ourselves and love ourselves regardless of what other people are doing when we're single (which is NOT a bad thing, even though a lot of people seem to think it is) and poor and our lives don't feel together, then we're not going to be able to care about ourselves and love ourselves if we magically have the most perfect spouse in the world and are the richest people in the world and everything runs perfectly.  You are yourself, and you can change your habits and you can change your personality with work and change your appearance and change your mindset, but you don't have control over anyone else and how the world interacts with you over how it interacts with them.  All you can do is inspect yourself (without thinking that you should be BeyoncĂ© or that the word 'perfect' actually has any reasonable meaning) and decide to either change yourself or accept yourself and do as much as you possibly can.  We're all bodies going to die and fall apart, little electrical signals make us move and do every thing we see as beautiful - we're made from the same components, and everything about the way our society functions is completely arbitrary.  If you befriend a talented person and someone's idiot enough to think that somehow makes you lesser, what does it matter?  In 100 years, they'll be dead and you will have been happy while you were alive to feel it. I hope this rant makes more sense to y'all than it does to me when I'm reading over it again...


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I've finally begun to develop an interest in pretty bedding (apparently I'm old enough to think it's a good thing, but not old enough to care to the extent of actually buying all the stuff to actually make my bed look pretty...)  Still, I'm in love with this new Lauren Conrad bedding stuff.  It's all so pretty, and I particularly enjoy this pattern/color scheme. Pretty and colorful...it's nice.

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I've been trying to figure out something that'll make my walls a little classier (considering that 3/4s of the art I've got up is, well, fanart of characters from a webcomic, you might understand why - I enjoy it, but it'd be cool to make it look fancier).  This cute idea just involves washi tape and looks like no effort.  Now all I have to do is decide if I want to use my washi tape for it, or continue hoarding it and crooning about how pretty it is...

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This is...basically how I live my life.  Yeah.  It seems to work pretty well, though, so I think I'll keep at it!

What were your favorite things this week?

8 comments:

  1. I read that article a while ago, but I really like your analysis. There was this quote that I used to use to motivate myself that goes "Don't get bitter, just get better." In light of the article, I might be due to revise that to "Don't get bitter, just get bigger" (as in a bigger person who doesn't let petty jealousy motivate her). Btw, what kind of fan art do you have on your walls? I'm curious :)

    Brittney

    anotherbeautifulthing.blogspot.com

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    1. That's a good motto, changed! I've got Homestuck fan art on my walls, with a little bit of Sailor Moon (and I just remembered and put up a Prince Caspian poster the school gave me at the start of first semester, not sure why they gave it to me, but hey...) I'm actually planning to do some sort of 'actual details of my space' sorta thing soonish, so I'll show it off more then. c:

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  2. Hi dear, thanks for your insightful comment, I do wish we could live a little more kindly as well, this seems like a far fetched dream though. I was challenging you to a makeup post because you said you didn't wear any ;) Im sure you'd looked fabulous, but its understandable if makeup is not much your thing (I survive just on blush and lips gloss myself). You have taken on such an interesting topic, indeed we shouldn't be measured by how well someone is doing, we should all just be able to live freely without having to compete with the next person and learn to be comfortable with our own means and lives. Love the pretty bedding, great colour scheme. I used a Fantastick wall art on my wall which made things so much easier than having to figure out what to do with it. Have fun at the museum, which one are you going to? And kudos on learning gangam style lyrics - now thats a talent!

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  3. That bedding is gorgeous! Although my husband would never let me buy it. Such a bummer!

    xo

    Ashley

    Southern (California) Belle

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  4. Haha old enough for pretty bedding- yay for growing up! Now that I live with my boyfriend it's a constant war to put anything REMOTELY girly into the apartment. If I tried putting that bed spread on it'd be like WWIII over here, haha. And I hope your weekend went awesome- especially the board game playing. That's still my absolute faaaavorite #sonotanadult

    xo Marlen
    Messages on a Napkin

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  5. Hi Sue..Thanks for sharing your fashion opinions with me...I get it about the makeup - I am like that with my hairstyles or lack of it most of the time. lol. Stage make up sounds really interesting! I am personally a huge fan of museums, you're lucky you have some to go to where you live, where I am there are none. Hopefully next time! May this week be a great one for you!

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  6. The Tina Fey statement applies to me too. I love that bedding. The colors are very pretty. I have been thinking I need new bedding but I'm trying to save and not purchase any right now.

    Tracy @ www.sunnydaystarrynight.com

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  7. love that quote!! and i need to check out that lc collection. i love all her stuff.

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